Eve Van Grafhorst
Dear Evy,
I made this quilt to portray the way I see you. The colours represent the peace and tranquillity I saw in your face. They also portray the fun and zest for life and your love for everybody. The angel is you and the trolls are friends and family who watched you glide to your special place in heaven. I know your life is full of miracles and I know you watch over us all.
I don’t think I ever told you how proud of you I was. You brought all sorts of people hope and understanding of what AIDS is. You made people less afraid of what they didn’t know. Your life was filled with love and happiness and great adventure. When I spoke with you it was just amazing how one so young could have the knowledge of an ancient philosopher.
I remember once you offered me a bite of your ice cream. I bit it with great enthusiasm and then I remembered you have…..AIDS. I must have looked scared as I swallowed the ice cream, as you proceeded to look at me with a gentle smile and reassure me I would not contract AIDS. You said it with such force and understanding that I actually felt like a twit but I knew that you understood how I had felt for that split second. You really made people understand that they had nothing to fear from you or any other person living with HIV.
Well, Evy, I must sign off now but I do want you to know I think of you often and the memories I have of you I keep close to my heart.
Love you always,
Your cousin Lynette
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Our Quilt depicts Eve’s normal childhood days of when she had no pain, no boxes of pills and medicines to take and only some understanding of the deadly disease that was in her body. This time was from when she moved to New Zealand through the few years that followed.
The photo shows all. This smiling face was seen every time we saw her. She had a smile and giggle for everyone and anyone, for those that took the time to say ’hi’, and also to those who tried to stay out of her way and scowl at her – she liked everyone.
The most precious memory I have of Eve that overrides all others, is when I was at work one day standing outside discussing the window display with the area manager, when I saw Eve and Gloria. When Eve saw me she let her mother’s hand go and ran towards me with her wonderful smile lighting up her face. As she reached me, she opened out her arms and jumped up into mine. A big, loving cuddle followed. That moment will be with me forever.
I can only be glad that Eve did have the chance to be a normal, happy little girl for just a short while. I know that some terminally ill children don’t often get the chance and my heart goes out to those.
See you with a big smile in our thoughts and dreams, Evie.
Love you,
Aunty Karen, Uncle Paul and cousin, Amanda.
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We called our section ‘LIFE’.
We chose to display some of the many things Eve loved about life.
The fountain, flowers and all the animals were greatly admired and loved by Eve.
The rainbow was a big favourite because of the many lovely colours that symbolized the world around her.
Last but not least, ‘THE ANGEL’ because that is what Eve is, a ‘BEAUTIFUL ANGEL’.
LOTS OF LOVE FROM NANA AND GREAT AUNTY DIANNE.
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The symbols on New Zealand and Australia represent the places where Eve lived – three years in Australia and eight and a half in New Zealand.
The ripples going out from New Zealand represent Eve’s message about HIV and AIDS going out to the rest of the world.
The dove flying towards Australia represents the peace that was able to go back to Gosford as the people apologised to Eve and her family for the hurt and prejudice in the first three years of Eve’s life. (Eve and her family came to New Zealand when she was shunned in her hometown)
The large Angels represent the unseen Heavenly Realm watching on.
LOTS OF LOVE FROM
UNCLE BRYAN, AUNTIE DIANNE AND COUSINS REBECCA, JOHN, LINLEY and HANNAH TAYLOR
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Within our panel we, as Eve’s friends, have portrayed the images and philosophies of life that were so important to Eve.
The pastel wash represents the calmness and tranquility that Eve faced her life with and that she shared with all of those around her.
The koru design represents the aroha that Eve shared with all of her whanau, friends and extended whanau.
The rainbow colours depict the many different shades of love the Eve shared with all of those around her. Rainbow’s also represented a vision of hope for Eve throughout her life.
The angel represents Eve as she is now. She is a beautiful guardian angel that will always watch over those that she cares, loves and hopes for.
The ring of stars represents the gateway to the spiritual world that Eve held so dear. To become an angel and get her wings was one of Eve’s greatest wishes.
Well, Evie, you have succeeded in your dream. Take your wings and sour as high as our love for you will take you, because our love now represents the wind beneath your wings.
We love you, Eve, with all of our dreams and hearts.
Kia kaha
Arohanui
Dana, Timothy, Biddy, Jode, Cathy, Toni, Debi, Suze and Caroline
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THE FAMILY PANEL represents the story of Eve’s life. Placed on a film clip as her life was very much in the public profile throughout her life – spreading the message of love, determination, great wisdom, the breaking down of prejudice, family commitment, and the issues of HIV and AIDS.
The pictures start at birth, 17th July 1982, 995 grams born, through to her first birthday. The black and white photo shows Eve at three years of age – the year of her HIV diagnosis (Eve had received contaminated blood from one of fifteen units of blood given to her during her first three months of life), and going public to fight for her rights in society.
Mother and daughter profile starts from birth, breast feeding and throughout her life until the last photo which was taken the night before Eve’s demise. This profile makes a statement in that as a mother I nurtured her from birth to death with intimate, caring and forever close contact always, and I, as Eve’s mother, have tested negative to HIV with the most recent test done in October 1994.
The next clip is just making an AIDS statement, “Fight AIDS not People with AIDS”, use condoms, support from the Kiwi Kids with AIDS Trust which was set up in 1991 by Eve and myself, Gloria. Finding a cure and the red ribbon of remembrance to all those that HIV and AIDS affects, along with Eve’s Golden Heart Award.
The final clip is a year by year profile of a very happy, exciting, loving, precocious and wonderful child. The last photo was taken on her eleventh birthday; a rock and roll party shared by many friends and family, just four months before she was taken to be an Angel on the 20th November 1993.
EVE DARLING, your life is so memorable and precious,
our love forever,
MUMMY, DADDY, PETER, DANA, KARL, CHARLOTTE, BILLY, TIMOTHY, and BLACKIE, FLUFFY and BO PEEP.
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This panel is from Class 6, Eve’s class at the Rudolf Steiner School.
Every Friday afternoon, during the winter of 1994, our Class 6 devoted a lesson to making a quilt panel made up of individual pieces in memory of our beloved Eve.
First we designed our own patterns on paper, then we drew the pattern onto the material.
People from the school community donated threads and accessories for this project.
The photo in the centre was the last class photo taken with Eve during 1993, two months before Eve passed away in November 1993.
The children of Class 6 have written their thoughts…………
The sunset on my quilt represents Eve’s early life ending again to rise in the spiritual world
David
On my quilt piece I embroidered a butterfly being released by two hands, the butterfly being a symbol of Eve and the hands being the loving people of earth.
Damon
I embroidered on my piece a garland of flowers. This represents the way we have all grown since we have known her, and beautiful and loving she was
Hannah Rutherford
I chose to do my quilt piece because I thought Eve was a beautiful and loving person. So I chose the heart to represent the love she gave to everyone and the dove was to represent the peace she had in her heart.
Steven
I put a rainbow and a golden heart on my quilt piece because that’s how I saw Eve.
Matt Anderson
The roses represented the beauty that Eve presented, each colour of the rainbow is for all qualities she has.
Lief
The rose symbolised the loving heart she had for everyone. the candle represents the glowing heart she had.
Elisabeth Ison
We all had to make a quilt piece in memory of our beloved Eve. Every Friday afternoon for 14 weeks and a bit of work at home we worked on this project. The theory of my quilt piece was love, strength and life, which I think resembles Eve and her life. The swords on my quilt was a symbol of strength, the tree for life, and the butterfly symbolised Eve and behind it all her love (the heart).
Alex
The butterfly which I embroidered on my piece represented the butterfly in a verse Eve was once given. When I see a butterfly it reminds me of Eve.
Amelia
In the middle of my piece is a purple heart made from raw silk. Climbing up this is a rose whose petals change from dark purple to a golden yellow which represents her life from the time from the time when she first received the virus to the time she left the earth.
Writer not identified
The rabbit on my quilt piece represents the time that I took my rabbit to visit Eve, and the hearts, of all the love she gave to us. I chose a pink background because Eve’s favourite colour was pink.
Eleanor
The quilt piece I made was of Angel Eve standing on a cloud with the light from the sun shining upon her
Timo
My piece was of a butterfly with a heart of rememberance fo our beloved Angel Eve.
Sasha
I chose this candle because Eve gave light and warmth and so does a candle. It is an everlasting candle symbolising Eve will always be in our hearts
Eiran C.B.
My design represents the warmth, love and affection Eve had during her life.
James D.
The heart symbolise her love and the angels her and her angel.
Azaria
I always felt Eve was in the world of fantasy, so I thought a moon with a heart sitting on it and silver stars around it seemed like her.
Nicola
I embroidered a golden heart because Eve had a strong and loving heart.
Anna
I chose to put a heart on to a navy blue background because I knew Eve loved hearts. I also wrote LOVE YOU ALWAYS. Mine was representing live.
Miriam
The different coloured butterfly on my piece represented Eve being set free from her illness. The border of flowers was sheltering her and the stars meant the sky she would travel.
Holly
My quilt piece represented half of a life spent well like a sun set. The beads stand for the people that learnt from Eve.
Breeze
On my quilt piece I embroidered a heart with flowers all around it which represented the love and kindness Eve shared with everyone.
Writer not identified
My quilt piece was of a white dove with a green leaf mouth flying over a rainbow which represents hope, love, and peace.
Joy Allison
I stitch a heart representing love because Eve was full of so much love.
Willow
My quilt piece was of my heart showing the light of Eve in it.
Lizzie
An angel called Eve, our beloved friend, spread her wings to fly, her love to us all, radiated bright, forming a heart around.
Sarinah
I embroidered a butterfly to remember Eve’s verse in morning circle.
Tyrin
My quilt piece represents the things that she gave to people, like love, knowledge, strength etc.
Rupert
The little white circus pony represented Eve’s little white pony she loved dearly. The heart around the outside represented the great love she gave out to everyone.
Sarah
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Eve Van Grafhorst | 17 July 1982 - 20 November 1993 | View Panel › |
Eve Van Grafhorst | 17 July 1982 - 20 November 1993 | View Panel › |
Eve Van Grafhorst | 17 July 1982 - 20 November 1993 | View Panel › |
Eve Van Grafhorst | 17 July 1982 - 20 November 1993 | View Panel › |
Eve Van Grafhorst | 17 July 1982 - 20 November 1993 | View Panel › |
Eve Van Grafhorst | 17 July 1982 - 20 November 1993 | View Panel › |
Eve Van Grafhorst | 17 July 1982 - 20 November 1993 | View Panel › |